Dad had a stroke
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ParadiseWaits
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Well, he had two, I guess. He's in the hospital and fortunately his speech wasn't affected, but I know next to nothing about strokes. Mom said she noticed he was off a few days before the main event and had him do the stroke indicator test: smile, hold your arms up etc test and he passed with flying colors, so she just thought he was having a bad day, but two days later he hit literally the deck. He wanted her to take him to a so-cal hospital, only they're in the mid-west currently; so she did the test again, he still passed - but she called Paramedics anyhow this time. The hospital tests determined he'd had the two strokes. I'm not looking for advice here, but I just wanted to say while the FAST test might save lives, just call an ambulance if you have reason to believe someone is having a stroke. I feel bad for mom, she did everything you're supposed to do, but two days passed because she didn't trust her initial instincts (and my dad is a stubborn boor! I'm so not surprised she dropped it after getting him to go through the test alone must've been an uphill battle).
http://www.stroke.org/understand-stroke/recognizing-stroke/act-fast
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thats awful! whats going on
thats awful! whats going on around here? Yes, you are your best advocate. hope he is ok.
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Sorry to hear the news,
Sorry to hear the news, Willows, but I'm glad that you shared it with us.
I hope that everything goes well for your parents. Any time someone goes to the hospital, it's not great, but it especially sucks when you're traveling.
And thanks for the FAST advice.
(((Get Well Dad)))
Top of Page Bottom of Page PermalinkFull Name: ParadiseWaits
It certainly could've been
It certainly could've been worse. I'm glad she didn't take no for an answer the second time. Dad's doing fairly well considering, but mom feels awful that she let it go the first time because he passed the FAST test. The message is pay attention to your spidey senses, if you feel like something is off get help right away.
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Sorry to hear this Willows,
Sorry to hear this Willows, sending some healing and love out his way...<3
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Ugh, I'm sorry Willows. Good
Ugh, I'm sorry Willows. Good on your mom for following through the second time, and thanks for the message. Best of luck to your dad and love to you and the family.
Top of Page Bottom of Page PermalinkFull Name: ParadiseWaits
Thanks for the kind words of
Thanks for the kind words of support, all of you! I'm so pooped from work that the news isn't freaking me out, I just wish they weren't so far away because I can't really help out from here.
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Thinking of you, Willows. I
Thinking of you, Willows. I've been there. Shoot me an email if you want to vent -- no more wisdom to share than I'm sure you already contain yourself, but by all means I'm open to it.
<3
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Sorry Dise.
Sorry Dise.
Hoping for a swift recovery.
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{{{Willows and Dad}}}
{{{Willows and Dad}}}
Top of Page Bottom of Page PermalinkFull Name: St. Mark
Wishing your dad & your
Wishing your dad & your family well, my friend.
You guys are in my thoughts.
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(((Family&Friends)))
(((Family&Friends)))
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Wishing your family well,
Wishing your family well, Willows. It sounds like a lot to sort out from here - hoping dad is on his way to complete and lasting health and that mom is not overwhelmed.
Good reminder about FAST!
Top of Page Bottom of Page PermalinkFull Name: KK
Dise, sorry to hear about
Dise, sorry to hear about this. Wishing you and family the best supporting vibes and a super speedy recovery for your dad.
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Sorry to read this, Willows.
Sorry to read this, Willows. Hoping for the best for all.
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Best wishes for your Father's
Best wishes for your Father's recovery, Dise
Top of Page Bottom of Page PermalinkFull Name: ParadiseWaits
Thanks again, folks.
Thanks again, folks. Fortunately or unfortunately my job is taking up all the rental space in my head lately because my hours have been nuts and I'm always tired. I appreciate the kind thoughts a lot
I'm going to try to wrap my head around it all later today when I'm off work. Not sure if mom wants me to come out there and help or if she'd rather not have another family member dividing her attention right now.
Atiex I might just take you up on your offer, I have no idea what to expect next. New territory for me as my parents have both been the picture of health until yesterday. Besides I wouldn't mind catching up with you and hearing how the hell you've been.
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Ms. Dise, Wishing your Dad
Ms. Dise, Wishing your Dad gets well soon and things get back to normal for your Mom & Dad.
Top of Page Bottom of Page PermalinkFull Name: RickP
If his speech is unaffected,
If his speech is unaffected, he's lucky and his prognosis is good. Lots of people have "mini" strokes and never know it until a CT is taken, often years after the fact. Perhaps this is what happened with your father.
I'm not in the medical field but my wife has been for 26 years. Though her specialty is orthopedics she is pretty knowledgeable about all organ systems. The above came from her.
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Wishing a speedy recovery for
Wishing a speedy recovery for your dad! Strength to your family.
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Shit Dise. Sorry to hear.
Shit Dise. Sorry to hear.
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Damn Willows, best of luck to
Damn Willows, best of luck to your father (and mother, as care-giving can be emotionally and physically exhausting). Being stubborn can only serve him well as he works to recover from the effects of the stroke. Be well, much love to you.
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{{{Vibes}}}
{{{Vibes}}}
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sending vibes to your pops
sending vibes to your pops
Top of Page Bottom of Page PermalinkFull Name: Peglet
Willows, so sorry to hear
Willows, so sorry to hear this, but so happy to hear they paid attention and sought help or the outcome could have been a lot different. Prayers going out to you and the family as you begin to navigate the recovery process.
(((((FAST))))
I totally forgot about that.
Top of Page Bottom of Page PermalinkFull Name: Ausonius
My dad is 91 and I live in
My dad is 91 and I live in fear of this.
Thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
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{{{Willows and Family}}}
{{{Willows and Family}}}
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((((vibes))))
((((vibes))))
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(((((((Dise nad Family)))))))
(((((((Dise and Family)))))))
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Heavy duty dude, hope he's ok
Heavy duty dude, hope he's ok.
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Sorry to hear, my best to you
Sorry to hear, my best to you and yours
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Oh girl! Sending you and your
Oh girl! Sending you and your family so much love!
Scary, crazy stuff. I too have been figuring my way through adult parent episodes. No handy manual for any useful direction.
Glad to hear the stroke may have been small, not that even the word small can sound comforting. Now you (and them) know the signs.
Huge hugs and strength Willers.
Love xoxoxox
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Sorry to hear about this WD.
Sorry to hear about this WD. Best wishes for your dad. Be strong
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Thinking of your Dad and your
Thinking of your Dad and your family, and sending more good wishes for a speedy and complete recovery...
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{{{{{wellness }}}}}}
{{{{{wellness }}}}}}
Top of Page Bottom of Page PermalinkFull Name: treat island
I hope things are looking
I hope things are looking good today for your dad, Willows. Better and better.
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Sending positive vibes to
Sending positive vibes to your dad for a good recovery and to you and your family for strength and peace of mind.
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Vibes to Dad, big time.
Vibes to Dad, big time.
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{{{{{Papa Dise Vibes}}}}}
Thank for posting... I had no idea about the test or even that much about the symptoms, but with aging parents, not to mention aging friends, it's time for me to get up to speed.
{{{{{Papa Dise}}}}}
Top of Page Bottom of Page PermalinkFull Name: ParadiseWaits
Hi all. Quick update. I spoke
Hi all. Quick update. I spoke with my father yesterday on the phone. He's not sure when he'll be leaving the hospital but he said he's going to be doing three hours stroke patient therapy a day at their PT facility. He also spoke enthusiastically about their incoming house guests at their lake house this weekend so I don't know what he's thinking - but I'm glad he has a super-positive, proactive approach. I did notice a very slight slur to his voice, and he complained that he can't feel or move his left arm and leg. Dad's a USAF vet; fortunately, his gov't enhanced fighter pilot/officer ego won't allow him to stay down for long if he can do anything to change it. We joked that he has the best excuse ever to listen to all the Bob Dylan and Poco he wants to...mom made it a rule that he couldn't play Dylan around her because she can't stand his voice and dad cranks it to eleven. My continued gratitude for the well-wishes, kind zoners. You're the best!
ps: Believe it or not, Robert Hunter is the reason my mom knew about the FAST test. He posted it and I sent it to my folks, so, thanks Hunter for having a part to play in saving my dad's life.
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Hi Willows,
Hi Willows,
Sorry to hear your Dad suffered a stroke, but he definitely sounds like a positive and tough man who will soldier through with the issues life can throw at us at times. All my best to him, your Mom, and you.
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Hoping for the best, Willows.
Hoping for the best, Willows.
Top of Page Bottom of Page PermalinkFull Name: KK
Fingers crossed for ya. How
Good morning Dise. Fingers crossed for ya. How is your day and how is pops?
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Thanks EB Fox and Bluestnote
Thanks EB Fox and Bluestnote
Mornin' KK, thanks for your well-wishes. Nothing new to report but no news is good news. Mom enlisted a family friend who has some pull at the hospital to advocate for dad, I guess mom didn't think he was getting adequate care. I'm just glad she's not taking it all on herself.
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Sorry to hear about your Pops
Sorry to hear about your Pops Dise. Good on your Mom for asking for what she and your Dad needs.
Hopefully he can go home soon. Love and hugs to you my dear.
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Love and strength to you and
Love and strength to you and family, Willows.
Wishing your dad a full and swift recovery.
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Wishing you all the best for
Wishing you all the best for your Dad's recovery.
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Thinking of your dad (and mom
Thinking of your dad (and mom, and you), Willows. xo
Top of Page Bottom of Page PermalinkFull Name: treat island
I've been thinking of your
I've been thinking of your dad today, as well as your mom and you. Hoping for full recovery and good times for all.
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It all sounds good enough for
It all sounds good enough for now. Sorry to hear the initial news. Hi, Willows.